1. StressThey are stressed whether they look like it or not. But if others see they are stressed that means there is a problem. A problem means parents need to intervene and that means change and a lack of control. Listen a lot. Assume they are stressed and give them empathy and support. Giving your kid an ear and a hug is more powerful than your advice.
2. Going to Parties and Experimenting with Drugs and AlcoholYour child goes to parties or at least wants to. He or she needs to socialize and feel like they are part of the group. It’s not a revelation that there are drugs and alcohol at these parties. Teens are very different with their friends than they are with you. Kids you would never expect to be at the party, drink, or do drugs will surprise you. Assume the worst and talk to them about the risks.